Sunday, August 17, 2025

PHILOSOPHICAL POINT OF VIEW OF MARRIEGE (1)

Philosophical look at marriage..........ONE.

     Entering marriage, a lot of people have fully expectation to have a happy marriage. Of course at the beginning of it those two will experience that happiness and  thought that is all it took. But for real they lost their way, the reality is that the initial passion will be taken off and the tough face will be on, on that tough face, if you don't take a good look philosophically in the said union, you will end up bickering the rest of your lives and get used to it the way you used to think of it.

    How you think about marriage profoundly impacts the quality of your marriage. A marriage filled with bickering and emptied of passion as many  thought this was normal they end-up resigned themselves to this fate. How sad though sometimes it has to be taken that way.

    Marriage does not need to give up so quickly. I undertook a deeper study of marriage and have come to embrace a “philosophy of marriage” that has given meaning to many struggles and which continues to provide an inspiration to this day. I have come to believe marriage is not supposed to be easy. A good marriage is not about cruising through life together, it’s about growing through life together, to mention a few it involve to forgive, to stay calm the time you feel dis obeyed, despised, forgotten rather than reacting in any way. Marriage is a “work in progress” what’s important is that to continue to make progress, Stagnation is the enemy.

Here, then, are three hallmarks of a healthy marriage:

1. Love is creative — not critical

What does it mean to love someone?

    Wife & husband have many failings. These failings were weighing us down early in their marriage. Then you came across this passage from the Polish playwright Karol Wojtyla you will understand more about this:

One does not love a person because it is easy.
Why does one love at all?…
[In the end] one question is important:
Is it creative?

    Creative! If one love his wife, that will build her up. that will make him focus on the “good and beautiful” in her and seek to draw that out of her. That will encourage her to become over their lifetime together, a more complete person. This is a creative love. Too many of us choose to go down the opposite path, we tear each other down and that is not right.

Banish bickering & boredom

    Bickering  pointing out each other’s flaws, again and again is the leading cause of divorce for couples married less than seven years. Boredom refer to a failure to be creative in love, in a deeper way is the leading cause of divorce for couples married less longer than seven years. I had thought that wife & husband were good as long as  they weren’t fighting, but “getting along” is not enough. Marriage is too long for that. In order for the couple to enjoy being married to each other for a lifetime, they need to keep their time together interesting, that means throughout their married life, they need to encourage each other to grow, they need to continually build each other up, they need to challenge each other, they need to work as a team to make their individual and shared dreams come true. That is a creative love.

2. Love is joyful — in good times and in bad times as well

    A second insight into what makes a marriage healthy came when that same Polish playwright argued love is joyful. Your home should be a happy home, day in and day out not just every now and then. At the time, couple hoping for a peaceful marriage. After a long day of work, all they wanted and thought was a quiet evening at home. But that does not meant to live peacefully together. Marriage does involve struggle but marriage is supposed to be joyful even in the midst of struggle.

“I will love you in good times and in bad”

Wife & husband made a promise, on their wedding day, to love each other in good times and in bad. When they made this promise, it is verry possible that every one of them thinking about the big bad times they might face and think is it possible for him or her to love his/her wife/husband even if the one diagnosed with cancer, experience heart attack and many other serious diseases, but the promise to love also applies to life’s many small bad days. I urge couples to truly live your wedding vows. Pay special attention during the “small bad days” of your life, as this is when you are least likely to love. Make a commitment to love more not less when you are tired, frustrated, stressed. Give each other the gift of a joyful marriage in good times and in bad times each and every day of your married life together. And there is no better moment to show your love for each other than the moment of reunion as well in bad moments like sickness. How you greet each other sets the tone for your marriage and family life. Always greet each other with joy and smile.

3. The purpose of marriage is to challenge you to grow — to grow as individuals and to grow together as a team

    Marriage is a long time to spend with one person, I have come to believe the only way to enjoy a married life together and each one among the couple grow as individuals and grow together as a team. In the early days of marriage, it didn’t take long for one to realize there is a need to get better at lots of things if wife was going to be happy living with a husband, They say you shouldn’t expect your spouse to change and there is wisdom in this but it is not wrong to ask.

Embrace growth — out of love for your spouse

    Most importantly, you should look at yourself. Out of love for your spouse, you should try to change. What gives marriage and family life its majesty is that it is an engine for growth, but growth is not automatic, growth needs to be embraced. Marriage is a great adventure and you will want to be in your marriage for a lifetime  if your marriage is motivating you to become a better and more complete person.

Don’t “get over it” — grow

    It is very wrong to believe that in marriage you need to get over it rather in Marriage you need to grow as an individual and or as a team, you can choose to live by this philosophy of marriage and I assure you will see the positive result:

    Marriage is about encouraging each other to grow. It’s about seeing challenges as opportunities to grow. It’s about growing as individuals and growing together as a team. It’s about embracing this hard work with a joyful and generous spirit in good times and in bad times as well.

                        "PUT THIS THEORY INTO PRACTICE"

Sunday, August 10, 2025

Do you consider yourself WISE? As per Socratic wisdom, Platonic wisdom, Aristotelian wisdom.

 

Socratic Wisdom: The Importance of Knowledge for a Good Life

    Socrates is considered a paragon of wisdom to this day, even though he didn’t consider himself wise. When the Pythia at the Oracle of Delphi said that no one was wiser than Socrates, it only motivated him to engage even more in philosophical debate. This consciousness of his own ignorance propelled him to test the word of the Oracle.

    In many of his conversations, reconstructed especially in the works of Plato and Xenophon (430 – 354 B.C.E.), we encounter Socrates repeatedly putting the question of the good life in the center of his discussions. That is, he asks his interlocutors and himself: how to live well? However, many other times he addresses other questions, only secondary to this matter. Every reader of the early platonic dialogues knows that Socrates spends a lot of time discussing the virtues of courage or piety, for example.

    Already during Socrates’s lifetime, human virtue was associated with success, even though in the pre-philosophical traditions of ancient Greece, virtue wasn’t considered something completely under human control, and it was common to think that the favor of the gods could not be dismissed. 

    If we believe in what Plato says in his early dialogues (which are the main references for the analysis of Socrates’s thought), the relation between virtue and a good life, or at least between virtue and a life of success in some specific activity like war, navigation, or carpentry, wasn’t only suggested to Socrates by elements of his culture, but by his own independent reflection. His analysis is both simple and original: he begins by pondering everyday objects.

    This is why we see Socrates repeatedly speaking of tools and domestic utensils in the early platonic dialogues. Take knives as one example. For Socrates, the virtue of a knife is, obviously, to cut well. To do this, it needs to have some specific characteristics, like being sharp, having an adequate weight and providing a good grip, and so forth. It’s because of this specific set of characteristics that the knife can do what it is supposed to do well or virtuously. That is, it’s because of the presence of these characteristics that it can perform with excellence the proper function that is the end, or purpose, of it. Absent of these characteristics, a knife cannot be any good.

    We can apply the same concept to living beings. A good horse or a good dog are those that have the specific set of characteristics that enables them to fulfill the fullest expression of their potential as horses and dogs. The specific set of characteristics varies, of course, according to the nature of each thing. The main thing to note here is that this general thought pattern could be applied to humans too in determination of goodness(virtual/wisdom) or badness(not wise)

    That’s exactly what Socrates did, we can say that Socrates tried to answer the question of the good life starting from these considerations. For him, all human activities are conducted by reason or, as the ancient philosophers usually said, by the soul. More than that, Socrates thought that we are motivated to do what, at any time, appears to be good according to our minds (this thesis is known today as Socratic intellectualism).

    However, it’s evident that what seems to be good to us and what in fact is good for us are not always the same. For Socrates, that means that we can only act well, even in our own interest, when we have the knowledge of how to act well, that is, when we possess the knowledge of how things are, what is good, what to do to obtain and preserve these things, how to best utilize them, how to avoid what is bad, and so forth.

    That means that it is only when we know what is good, without error, that we can confidently act to obtain that good. Hence, human excellence is an excellence of the mind. That is a state where the mind is in possession of knowledge. That state of the mind is also what Socrates calls wisdom. In due respect of Socratic Philosophy on wisdom, do you believe that you are wise?

    One thing we can know for sure: Socrates was aware of our cognitive limitations as humans. He never thought that we can be wise – that is, completely wise, with our minds being in the possession of all possible knowledge. In his opinion, that is something that only the gods can achieve. Every knowledge we can acquire is only provisional and fallible. And not only that, but we also cannot know everything. All we can do is to keep searching, keep revising our concepts and conclusions. That is, all we can do is to search for wisdom or, in other words, to philosophize. Even if you believe that you are wise then it is much better to keep on searching for wisdom and philosophies about it, with or without the answer of the above question just keep on searching and philosophies about wisdom.

Platonic Wisdom: The Virtue of Philosophers in the Ideal City-state

    Socrates’s pupil Plato, of course, was also interested in epistemology and stated the practical importance of knowledge for human beings. The allegory of the cave theory is not meant to encourage ignorance, after all.  Here, however, I’ll only briefly explore what Plato has to say about wisdom in his most famous dialogue, the Republic.

    Like Socrates, Plato also was interested in thinking about the way to answer the question of the good life. However, not only does he not consider wisdom as the main virtue, but he also conceptualizes it completely differently. Plato traces a distinction between wisdom and knowledge almost like Socrates. But, for Plato, wisdom is something different than the state where the mind has perfect knowledge of everything.

    It’s important to consider his psychological theory, first if we want to understand his concept of wisdom and its place in his ethics. Plato thought that the human mind is divided into three parts: the rational part, the spirited part, and the appetitive part. Each is responsible for a function of the human mind: thinking, feeling, and desiring, respectively. Even though every mind is formed by these three parts, in each one of us – so the theory goes – one of these parts is always more prominent.

    As a consequence, Plato says that there are three types of character, which he presents in the myth of the three metals:  there are those that have souls made of gold (dominated by the rational part), those who have souls of silver (dominated by the spirited part) and those who have souls of bronze (dominated by the appetitive part).

    The platonic discussion of wisdom appears in the course of the exposition about the ideal city-state. It’s here that we find Plato’s idea that wisdom is a form that is, the capacity to give good advice, or for sound judgment. Far from being a universal virtue, available to all, this capacity is a form of intellectual excellence that can be achieved solely by trained philosophers, that is, for those who have a soul made of gold. In his ideal polis, those people should lead the government as kings or queens.

    It is for that reason, at least in the context of the Republic, that Plato considers that wisdom can be achieved only by some people who can submit to an extensive educational program. But, once they became governors, this virtue could confer benefits to all the citizens of the polis.

    As for the individuals with souls of silver or bronze, even though we can assume that Plato would concede that they could develop some degree of wisdom in some limited affairs, they would never be able to be wise to other affairs hence not wise. Determine yourself as per Plato, do you consider yourself wise?

Aristotelian Wisdom: Two Virtues Instead of One 

    In his Nicomachean Ethics, Book VI, Aristotle presents a more detailed account of wisdom than that of his predecessors. It’s interesting to consider some other basic aspects of his ethics before we enter into his discussion of wisdom.

    For Aristotle. Like Plato, Aristotle didn’t believe that all human beings have the same capacity for virtue. Unlike Plato, he thought that only those who received a good education, from childhood to early adulthood, could become virtuous one day. That’s a sine qua non for him: a necessary condition. However, this initial education could only raise decent people. True virtue requires a special kind of practical knowledge and education. And that, in fact, is what Aristotle aims to provide with his ethical theory.

    Aristotle also thought that the human mind is divided into three parts: the rational, the sensitive, and the vegetative. It would be impossible to discuss all of the nuances that differentiate his psychological theory from Plato’s here; for our purposes, I’ll only highlight that Aristotle thought that human virtue was the same for all human beings (well, at least for all the aristocratic Greeks that formed his main body of students). That means, in other words, that Aristotle considered virtue to be more accessible than Plato thought it was.

    According to Aristotelian ethics, human virtue could be divided into two general categories: intellectual virtues and moral virtues (or virtues of character). And, in Aristotle’s opinion, wisdom is not one virtue, but two distinct intellectual virtues. That is, for Aristotle, there are two kinds of wisdom. I’ll explain them later. Let’s first get a better grasp of what moral virtues are.

    Moral virtues are related to the irrational aspects of the human soul, like sentiments and desires – it’s here that we find virtues like courage and generosity. Aristotle thought that when guided by the rational part of the soul – that is, when our irrational dispositions are regulated by reason (orientated by the doctrine of the mean) – these dispositions become virtuous. If our irrational dispositions are well-regulated by reason, we feel and desire in a way that is most adequate to our nature as human beings.

    Training our dispositions is not easy. It requires a lot of effort and time. But, as Aristotle himself says, even if we acquire moral virtues, their possession is not sufficient to live a virtuous life. We need to correctly apply them in the different circumstances that life presents to us. That is, we need to be sensitive to the specific ethical dimensions of our circumstances; we need to know what we should prioritize at the moment of action; we have to know what we should do to achieve that end, and how, in detail (if possible), we can do it. And that’s an intellectual capacity, one that Aristotle calls practical wisdom or prudence.

    Practical wisdom, however, cannot be acquired in the same way as moral virtues. While it’s possible to be brave and imprudent, Aristotle thought that it’s not possible to be practically wise without full comprehension about the human good, including the possession of all the moral virtues. True practical wisdom is not a domain-specific ability. It requires full comprehension of what is good for a human being in general and in all aspects of one’s life, in all the different phases of one’s life. It’s the end goal of a person’s moral development.

    Thus, practical wisdom is different from the other kind of wisdom that exists: theoretical wisdom (sophia). While practical wisdom is general knowledge about the good for human beings, as human beings, theoretical wisdom is a different type of knowledge. Sophia is knowledge about the most excellent beings of the cosmos, the most general categories of Being, the laws of nature – and so forth. To have it is to possess an excellent comprehension of the universein which we live. And that’s a purely theoretical matter.

    So, in the light of all that, what’s the happiest life a human being can live? How does Aristotle answer the philosophical question about the good life? Aristotle thought that the happiest life is the contemplative life of the philosopher who has both kinds of wisdom. That’s because theoretical knowledge provides him with a kind of good in itself, a good that cannot be used to achieve any of the other human goods. In second place, there is the life of the practically virtuous citizen, who doesn’t have sophia but is guided by phrónesis, and thus, they can achieve a happy human life.

     We saw the contextual reasons that made Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle reflect on wisdom, along with their different concepts of it. Their aim was practical, since they were interested in finding an answer to the question: how can we live well? In this context, “wisdom” generally is meant to refer to some kind of connection between knowledge and action, to some mental capacity that enables us to better orient ourselves in the world that we live in because of the knowledge that we have.

                        "DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF WISE"


Saturday, August 9, 2025

ACCEPT THE UNACCEPTABLE TOWARD LAW OF ATRACTION FOR POSITIVE RESULT

 

What Is The Law Of Attraction & How Does It Work?

What is the Law of Attraction

    The Law of Attraction defines your ability to attract, into your life, what you focus on.
Whatever you can imagine is achievable, if you take action on a plan to get to where you want to be. The true definition of the Law of Attraction is like attracts like. Whatever you give your emotional energy and attention to, is what will come back to you. Do you often ask yourself “Is the Law of Attraction real?”.

    The answer is yes. The Law of Attraction is like gravity. You see it every minute of every day. It is always influencing and impacting you and your life. The Law of Attraction governs everything within our abundant Universe. It does not discriminate. It only exists with perfection whether you like it or not. You right now are being guided by universal forces to finally understand how manifest whatever it is that you put your mind to. Every moment of your life you are creating your own reality. With every conscious thought, you are creating your present and your future.

    Whatever you can imagine in your mind’s eye is achievable, but only if you take action on a plan to get what you want. If you focus on negative thoughts and bad outcomes, then you will attract them. If you focus on positive thoughts, have goals, and have a plan, then this is what you will manifest.

The Three Laws of Attraction

1. Like Attracts Like

    The Law of Attraction in its most simple form is like attracts like. This means that things, objects, or people with similar energy attract each other. This happens every moment of every day whether you are aware of it or not. This energy shifting occurs when you attract similar experiences, people or things to you. Positive thought, and emotion, will attract positive things or experiences. The reverse is also true. Negative thoughts, and emotions, will attract negative things or experiences into your life.

    You will also gravitate to things, people, or situations that have the same energy as you feel too. Whether positive or negative in nature, this will only magnify the vibration you feel. It's important to remember that thoughts become things. The thoughts we have and the choices we make reflect back into our world and become our reality. You will attract, or manifest what you think about, so it is best to go about this with clear intention. Be careful of your thoughts and what you are thinking and feeling. Surround yourself with the kind of people that make you feel great, that you want to grow with, or become more like.

2. Nature Abhors a Vacuum

    According to the ancient philosopher Aristotle, “Nature abhors a vacuum”. He observed that nature requires all space to fill with something. Even if that something is colourless, odourless air. It is impossible to have empty space in your mind or life. Empty space will fill with whatever you attract, whether you like it or not.

    Remove what you don't want in your life and make room for positive things to replace them.The best way to think of this is to remember how good it feels to tidy a desk, a cupboard or a room. You remove the clutter. You throw out or recycle what you don't need. After cleaning you replace everything with new, clean, tidy things. Your mind becomes clear. Your mood is brighter, and you feel positive.

3. The Present is Always Perfect

    Whatever is happening in the present is a direct result of your past choices and decisions. Surrender to what is. The past is the past and you have infinite possibilities in the future, so accept what is in the present. It may seem imperfect, and you may feel unhappy, but you should focus your mind on being positive. Enjoy the present for the perfect moment that it is.

How Does The Law Of Attraction Work?

    The Law of Attraction is always working, every single second of every day. Furthermore, it is reacting to how you act, all the time, without regard to whether you are acting in a positive or negative way. If you believe, and know, that you deserve good things then you will start acting a certain way. You will set great goals. You will make plans to meet the exact person you need to meet. Without thinking, you will put yourself in situations that will lead to exactly where you need to be. Some of these things that happen to you will feel like mysterious synchronicity signs or moments of serendipity, but they aren't. The Law of Attraction is giving you exactly what you think you deserve. I.e. more of what you want and more of what you know you deserve.

    If you have limiting beliefs and think that you don't deserve something, this will reflect in your behaviours. You'll act in a way that won't put you in situations that will result in anything positive. You'll use negative language or have a negative attitude. You won't notice perfect timing. You won't end up in the right place at the right time. The Law of Attraction is giving you exactly what you think you deserve. I.e. in effect, less of what you want, because you know you don't deserve it and are acting exactly in this way.

How To Use The Law Of Attraction

    So, how do you get started with the Law of Attraction? Realize first, that you are already using the Law of Attraction. Or that it is always reacting to you, to whatever you are thinking and doing. Where you are today is a direct result of your past thoughts, your goals, your choices, and your decisions. The Law of Attraction is always working. So how do you start using it for things you actually want?To incorporate the Law of Attraction into your own life, start with this simplified list:

  • Identify and choose exactly what you want to manifest
  • Visualize your exact desired future life
  • Practice daily gratitude for the present
  • Reframe past and present situations from negative to positive
  • Start practicing daily meditation
  • Start daily or weekly writing in your gratitude journal

There are many ways you can start using the Law of Attraction. Learning how to apply these is simple and they take a small amount of effort to start integrating into your day. Spread your positivity to your loved ones too. This will allow yourself to open up to receive their love and support.

Creative Visualization

    The best way to starting to apply the Law of Attraction is through creative visualization. It is the most powerful tool for manifesting exactly what you want. Why? Because in the same way as setting a goal, you first decided exactly what you want in great detail. This exact act of deciding something sets you off on a unique path. It's exactly like choosing a destination and using sat-nav to get there.

        Create a mental picture in your mind of the reality you want. Imagine in your mind’s eye what this looks like. Visit this reality in your imagination. What does it make you feel? Feel the emotions. What does this place or experience or thing smell like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like to touch? What does it make you feel inside? Answer these questions whist you are imagining it.

        Lastly, the law of attraction also works even in the experience of difficult situation, you just accept the situation and take the said situation in positive way hence you will start to feel positive vibe which led to positive result as a response of the universe from the way your mind thinking of what is before you.

                  "BE POSITIVE EVEN IN WORSE SITUATION IN YOUR LIFE"


Monday, May 16, 2016

The Power of Positive Thinking



Positive thinking is a mental and emotional attitude that focuses on the bright side of life and expects positive results.
A positive person anticipates happiness, health and success, and believes he or she can overcome any obstacle and difficulty.
Positive thinking is not accepted by everyone. Some, consider it as nonsense, and scoff at people who follow it, but there is a growing number of people, who accept positive thinking as a fact, and believe in its effectiveness.
It seems that this subject is gaining popularity, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it.
To use it in your life, you need more than just to be aware of its existence. You need to adopt the attitude of positive thinking in everything you do.

How Positive Thinking Works

The following story illustrates how this power works:
Allan applied for a new job, but he didn't believe he will get it, since his self-esteem was low, and he considered himself as a failure and unworthy of success.
He had a negative attitude toward himself, and therefore, believed that the other applicants were better and more qualified than him.
Allan's mind was occupied with negative thought and fears concerning the job, for the whole week preceding the job interview. He actually, anticipated failure.
On the day of the interview, he got up late, and to his horror he discovered that the shirt he planned to wear was dirty, and the other one needed ironing. As it was already too late, he went out wearing a wrinkled shirt and without eating breakfast.

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During the interview, he was tense, negative, hungry and worried about his shirt. All this, destroy his mind and made it difficult for him to focus on the interview. His overall behavior made a bad impression, and consequently, he materialized his fear and did not get the job.
Jim applied for the same job too, but approached the matter in a different way. He was sure that he was going to get the job. During the week preceding the interview, he often visualized himself making a good impression and getting the job.
In the evening before the interview, he prepared the clothes he was going to wear, and went to sleep a little earlier. On day of the interview, he woke up earlier than usual, and had ample time to eat breakfast, and then to arrive to the interview before the scheduled time.
Jim made a good impression and got the job.
What do we learn from these two stories? Was there any magic used? No, everything happened in a natural way.

Positive Thinking Is a Way of Life

With a positive attitude we experience pleasant and happy feelings. This brings brightness to the eyes, more energy, and happiness. Our whole being broadcasts good will, happiness and success. Even our health is affected in a beneficial way. We walk tall, our voice is more powerful, and our body language shows the way we feel.
Positive and negative thinking are contagious.
We affect, and are affected by the people we meet, in one way or another. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through words, thoughts and feelings, and through body language.
Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people, and prefer to avoid negative ones?
People are more disposed to help us, if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.
Negative thoughts, words and attitude, create negative and unhappy feelings, moods and behavior. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment.

Positive Thinking Instructions and Advice

In order to turn the mind toward the positive, some inner work is required, since attitude and thoughts do not change overnight.
  1. Read about this subject, think about its benefits, and persuade yourself to try it. The power of your thoughts is a mighty power that is always shaping your life. This shaping is usually done subconsciously, but it is possible to make the process a conscious one. Even if the idea seems strange, give it a try. You have nothing to lose, but only to gain.
  2. Ignore what other people say or think about you, if they discover that you are changing the way you think.
  3. Use your imagination to visualize only favorable and beneficial situations.
  4. Use positive words in your inner dialogues, or when talking with others.
  5. Smile a little more, as this helps to think positively.
  6. Once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to be aware of it, and endeavor to replace it with a constructive one. If the negative thought returns, replace it again with a positive one. It is as if there are two pictures in front of you, and you have to choose to look at one of them, and disregard the other. Persistence will eventually teach your mind to think positively, and to ignore negative thoughts.
  7. In case you experience inner resistance and difficulties when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, do not give up, but keep looking only at the beneficial, good and happy thoughts in your mind.
  8. It doesn't matter what your circumstances are at the present moment. Think positively, expect only favorable results and situations, and circumstances will change accordingly. If you persevere, you will transform the way your mind thinks. It might take some time for the changes to take place, but eventually they will.

Friday, May 13, 2016

The Power of Positive Attitude Can Change Your Life


A Positive Attitude Leads to Success and Happiness.

A positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it would bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful.
With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic, and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing.
Positive attitude manifests in the following ways:
  • Positive thinking.
  • Constructive thinking.
  • Creative thinking.
  • Optimism.
  • Motivation and energy to do things and accomplish goals.
  • An attitude of happiness.
A positive frame of mind can help you in many ways, such as:
  • Expecting success and not failure.
  • Making you feel inspired.
  • It gives you the strength not to give up, if you encounter obstacles on your way.
  • It makes you look at failure and problems as blessings in disguise.
  • Believing in yourself and in your abilities.>
  • Enables you to show self-esteem and confidence.
  • You look for solutions, instead of dwelling on problems.
  • You see and recognize opportunities.
A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but it also affects your environment and the people around you.
If this attitude is strong enough, it becomes contagious. It's as if you radiate light around you.

More Benefits of a Positive Attitude:

This might seem like a repetition of the above, but it helps to make this message clearer.
  • It helps you achieve goals and attain success.
  • It brings more happiness into your life.
  • It produces more energy.
  • Positive attitude increases your faith in your abilities, and brings hope for a brighter future.
  • You become able to inspire and motivate yourself and others.
  • You encounter fewer obstacles and difficulties in your daily life.
  • You get more respect and love from people.
  • Life smiles at you.
Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve success.
Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.
If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is the time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior, and start leading a happier and more successful life. If you tried to do so in the past and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough.

Simple Tips for Developing a Positive Attitude:

  1. Choose to be happy. Yes, it is a matter of choice. When negative thoughts enter your mind, just refuse to look at them, doing your best to substitute them with happy thoughts
  2. Look at the bright side of life. It's a matter of choice and repeated attempts.
  3. Choose to be optimistic.
  4. Find reasons to smile more often. You can find such reasons, if you search for them.
  5. Have faith in yourself, and believe that the Universe can help you.
  6. Associate yourself with happy people.
  7. Read inspiring stories.
  8. Read inspiring quotes.
Following even only one of the above suggestions, will bring more light into your life!

Thursday, April 7, 2016

                                Aristotle

                                                
Introduction: Aristotle’s Definition of Happiness
“Happiness depends on ourselves.” More than anybody else, Aristotle enshrines happiness as a central purpose of human life and a goal in itself. As a result he devotes more space to the topic of happiness than any thinker prior to the modern era. Living during the same period as Mencius, but on the other side of the world, he draws some similar conclusions. That is, happiness depends on the cultivation of virtue, though his virtues are somewhat more individualistic than the essentially social virtues of the Confucians. Yet as we shall see, Aristotle was convinced that a genuinely happy life required the fulfillment of a broad range of conditions, including physical as well as mental well-being. In this way he introduced the idea of a science of happiness in the classical sense, in terms of a new field of knowledge.
Essentially, Aristotle argues that virtue is achieved by maintaining the Mean, which is the balance between two excesses. Aristotle’s doctrine of the Mean is reminiscent of Buddha’s Middle Path, but there are intriguing differences. For Aristotle the mean was a method of achieving virtue, but for Buddha the Middle Path referred to a peaceful way of life which negotiated the extremes of harsh asceticism and sensual pleasure seeking. The Middle Path was a minimal requirement for the meditative life, and not the source of virtue in itself.
                                                                                Aristotle: A Little Background
Aristotle (right) and Plato in Raphael's painting, 'The School of Athens', in the Vatican.
    
Aristotle (right) and Plato in Raphael’s fresco, ‘The School of Athens’, in the Apostolic Palace in the Vatican.
Aristotle is one of the greatest thinkers in the history of western science and philosophy, making contributions to logic, metaphysics, mathematics, physics, biology, botany, ethics, politics, agriculture, medicine, dance and theatre. He was a student of Plato who in turn studied under Socrates. Although we do not actually possess any of Aristotle’s own writings intended for publication, we have volumes of the lecture notes he delivered for his students; through these Aristotle was to exercise his profound influence through the ages. Indeed, the medieval outlook is sometimes considered to be the “Aristotelian worldview” and St. Thomas Aquinas simply refers to Aristotle as “The Philosopher” as though there were no other.
Aristotle was the first to classify areas of human knowledge into distinct disciplines such as mathematics, biology, and ethics. Some of these classifications are still used today, such as the species-genus system taught in biology classes. He was the first to devise a formal system for reasoning, whereby the validity of an argument is determined by its structure rather than its content. Consider the following syllogism: All men are mortal; Socrates is a man; therefore, Socrates is mortal. Here we can see that as long as the premises are true, the conclusion must also be true, no matter what we substitute for “men or “is mortal.” Aristotle’s brand of logic dominated this area of thought until the rise of modern symbolic logic in the late 19th Century.
Aristotle was the founder of the Lyceum, the first scientific institute, based in Athens, Greece. Along with his teacher Plato, he was one of the strongest advocates of a liberal arts education, which stresses the education of the whole person, including one’s moral character, rather than merely learning a set of skills. According to Aristotle, this view of education is necessary if we are to produce a society of happy as well as productive individuals.
Happiness as the Ultimate Purpose of Human Existence
One of Aristotle’s most influential works is the Nicomachean Ethics, where he presents a theory of happiness that is still relevant today, over 2,300 years later. The key question Aristotle seeks to answer in these lectures is “What is the ultimate purpose of human existence?” What is that end or goal for which we should direct all of our activities? Everywhere we see people seeking pleasure, wealth, and a good reputation. But while each of these has some value, none of them can occupy the place of the chief good for which humanity should aim. To be an ultimate end, an act must be self-sufficient and final, “that which is always desirable in itself and never for the sake of something else” (Nicomachean Ethics, 1097a30-34), and it must be attainable by man. Aristotle claims that nearly everyone would agree that happiness is the end which meets all these requirements. It is easy enough to see that we desire money, pleasure, and honor only because we believe that these goods will make us happy. It seems that all other goods are a means towards obtaining happiness, while happiness is always an end in itself.
The Greek word that usually gets translated as “happiness” is eudaimonia, and like most translations from ancient languages, this can be misleading. The main trouble is that happiness (especially in modern America) is often conceived of as a subjective state of mind, as when one says one is happy when one is enjoying a cool beer on a hot day, or is out “having fun” with one’s friends. For Aristotle, however, happiness is a final end or goal that encompasses the totality of one’s life. It is not something that can be gained or lost in a few hours, like pleasurable sensations. It is more like the ultimate value of your life as lived up to this moment, measuring how well you have lived up to your full potential as a human being. For this reason, one cannot really make any pronouncements about whether one has lived a happy life until it is over, just as we would not say of a football game that it was a “great game” at halftime (indeed we know of many such games that turn out to be blowouts or duds). For the same reason we cannot say that children are happy, any more than we can say that an acorn is a tree, for the potential for a flourishing human life has not yet been realized. As Aristotle says, “for as it is not one swallow or one fine day that makes a spring, so it is not one day or a short time that makes a man blessed and happy.” (Nicomachean Ethics, 1098a18)
The Hierarchical View of Nature
In order to explain human happiness, Aristotle draws on a view of nature he derived from his biological investigations. If we look at nature, we notice that there are four different kinds of things that exist in the world, each one defined by a different purpose:
Mineral: rocks, metals and other lifeless things. The only goal which these things seek is to come to a rest. They are “beyond stupid” since they are inanimate objects with no soul
Vegetative: plants and other wildlife. Here we see a new kind of thing emerge,something which is alive. Because plants seek nourishment and growth, they have souls and can be even said to be satisfied when they attain these goals
Animal: all the creatures we study as belonging to the animal kingdom. Here we see a higher level of life emerge: animals seek pleasure and reproduction, and we can talk about a happy or sad dog, for example, to the extent that they are healthy and lead a pleasant life
Human: what is it that makes human beings different from the rest of the animal kingdom? Aristotle answers: Reason. Only humans are capable of acting according to principles, and in so doing taking responsibility for their choices. We can blame Johnny for stealing the candy since he knows it is wrong, but we wouldn’t blame an animal since it doesn’t know any better.
It seems that our unique function is to reason: by reasoning things out we attain our ends, solve our problems, and hence live a life that is qualitatively different in kind from plants or animals. The good for a human is different from the good for an animal because we have different capacities or potentialities. We have a rational capacity and the exercising of this capacity is thus the perfecting of our natures as human beings. For this reason, pleasure alone cannot constitute human happiness, for pleasure is what animals seek and human beings have higher capacities than animals. The goal is not to annihilate our physical urges, however, but rather to channel them in ways that are appropriate to our natures as rational animals.
Thus Aristotle gives us his definition of happiness:
…the function of man is to live a certain kind of life, and this activity implies a rational principle, and the function of a good man is the good and noble performance of these, and if any action is well performed it is performed in accord with the appropriate excellence: if this is the case, then happiness turns out to be an activity of the soul in accordance with virtue. (Nicomachean Ethics, 1098a13)
The Pursuit of Happiness as the Exercise of Virtue
In this last quote we can see another important feature of Aristotle’s theory: the link between the concepts of happiness and virtue. Aristotle tells us that the most important factor in the effort to achieve happiness is to have a good moral character — what he calls “complete virtue.” But being virtuous is not a passive state: one must act in accordance with virtue. Nor is it enough to have a few virtues; rather one must strive to possess all of them. As Aristotle writes,
He is happy who lives in accordance with complete virtue and is sufficiently equipped with external goods, not for some chance period but throughout a complete life. (Nicomachean Ethics, 1101a10)
According to Aristotle, happiness consists in achieving, through the course of a whole lifetime, all the goods — health, wealth, knowledge, friends, etc. — that lead to the perfection of human nature and to the enrichment of human life. This requires us to make choices, some of which may be very difficult. Often the lesser good promises immediate pleasure and is more tempting, while the greater good is painful and requires some sort of sacrifice. For example, it may be easier and more enjoyable to spend the night watching television, but you know that you will be better off if you spend it researching for your term paper. Developing a good character requires a strong effort of will to do the right thing, even in difficult situations.
Another example is the taking of drugs, which is becoming more and more of a problem in our society today. For a fairly small price, one can immediately take one’s mind off of one’s troubles and experience deep euphoria by popping an oxycontin pill or snorting some cocaine. Yet, inevitably, this short-term pleasure will lead to longer term pain. A few hours later you may feel miserable and so need to take the drug again, which leads to a never-ending spiral of need and relief. Addiction inevitably drains your funds and provides a burden to your friends and family. All of those virtues — generosity, temperance, friendship, courage, etc. — that make up the good life appear to be conspicuously absent in a life of drug use.
Aristotle would be strongly critical of the culture of “instant gratification” which seems to predominate in our society today. In order to achieve the life of complete virtue, we need to make the right choices, and this involves keeping our eye on the future, on the ultimate result we want for our lives as a whole. We will not achieve happiness simply by enjoying the pleasures of the moment. Unfortunately, this is something most people are not able to overcome in themselves. As he laments, “the mass of mankind are evidently quite slavish in their tastes, preferring a life suitable to beasts”
archer-&-target2(Nicomachean Ethics, 1095b 20). Later in the Ethics Aristotle draws attention to the concept of akrasia, or weakness of the will. In many cases the overwhelming prospect of some great pleasure obscures one’s perception of what is truly good. Fortunately, this natural disposition is curable through training, which for Aristotle meant education and the constant aim to perfect virtue. As he puts it, a clumsy archer may indeed get better with practice, so long as he keeps aiming for the target.
Note also that it is not enough to think about doing the right thing, or even intend to do the right thing: we have to actually do it. Thus, it is one thing to think of writing the great American novel, another to actually write it. When we impose a form and order upon all those letters to actually produce a compelling story or essay, we are manifesting our rational potential, and the result of that is a sense of deep fulfillment. Or to take another example, when we exercise our citizenship by voting, we are manifesting our rational potential in yet another way, by taking responsibility for our community. There are myriad ways in which we can exercise our latent virtue in this way, and it would seem that the fullest attainment of human happiness would be one which brought all these ways together in a comprehensive rational life-plan.
There is yet another activity few people engage in which is required to live a truly happy life, according to Aristotle: intellectual contemplation. Since our nature is to be rational, the ultimate perfection of our natures is rational reflection. This means having an intellectual curiosity which perpetuates that natural wonder to know which begins in childhood but seems to be stamped out soon thereafter. For Aristotle, education should be about the cultivation of character, and this involves a practical and a theoretical component. The practical component is the acquisition of a moral character, as discussed above. The theoretical component is the making of a philosopher. Here there is no tangible reward, but the critical questioning of things raises our minds above the realm of nature and closer to the abode of the gods.
Friendship
For Aristotle, friendship is one of the most important virtues in achieving the goal of eudaimonia (happiness). While there are different kinds of friendship, the highest is one that is based on virtue (arête). This type of friendship is based on a person wishing the best for their friends regardless of utility or pleasure. Aristotle calls it a “… complete sort of friendship between people who are good and alike in virtue …” (Nicomachean Ethics, 1156b07-08). This type of friendship is long lasting and tough to obtain because these types of people are hard to come by and it takes a lot of work to have a complete, virtuous friendship. Aristotle notes that one cannot have a large number of friends because of the amount of time and care that a virtuous friendship requires. Aristotle values friendship so highly that he argues friendship supersedes justice and honor. First of all, friendship seems to be so valued by people that no one would choose to live without friends. People who value honor will likely seek out either flattery or those who have more power than they do, in order that they may obtain personal gain through these relationships. Aristotle believes that the love of friendship is greater than this because it can be enjoyed as it is. “Being loved, however, people enjoy for its own sake, and for this reason it would seem it is something better than being honoured and that friendship is chosen for its own sake” (Nicomachean Ethics, 1159a25-28). The emphasis on enjoyment here is noteworthy: a virtuous friendship is one that is most enjoyable since it combines pleasure and virtue together, thus fulfilling our emotional and intellectual natures.
The Golden Mean
Aristotle’s ethics is sometimes referred to as “virtue ethics” since its focus is not on the moral weight of duties or obligations, but on the development of character and the acquiring of virtues such as courage, justice, temperance, benevolence, and prudence. And anyone who knows anything about Aristotle has heard his doctrine of virtue as being a “golden mean” between the extremes of excess and deficiency. Courage, for example, is a mean regarding the feeling of fear, between the deficiency of rashness (too little fear) and the excess of cowardice (too much fear). Justice is a mean between getting or giving too much and getting or giving too little. Benevolence is a mean between giving to people who don’t deserve it and not giving to anyone at all. Aristotle is not recommending that one should be moderate in all things, since one should at all times exercise the virtues. One can’t reason “I should be cruel to my neighbor now since I was too nice to him before.” The mean is a mean between two vices, and not simply a mean between too much and too little.
Furthermore, the mean is “relative to ourselves,” indicating that one person’s mean may be another person’s extreme. Milo the wrestler, as Aristotle puts it, needs more gruel than a normal person, and his mean diet will vary accordingly. Similarly for the moral virtues. Aristotle suggests that some people are born with weaker wills than others; for these people, it may actually be a mean to flee in battle (the extremes being to get slaughtered or commit suicide). Here we see the flexibility in Aristotle’s account: as soon as he begins to lay down some moral rules, he relaxes them in order to take into consideration the variety and contingency of particular temperaments.
Aristotle’s doctrine of the mean is well in keeping with ancient ways of thinking which conceived of justice as a state of equilibrium between opposing forces. In the early cosmologies, the Universe is stabilized as a result of the reconciliation between the opposing forces of Chaos and Order. The Greek philosopher Heraclitus conceived of right living as acting in accordance with the Logos, the principle of the harmony of opposites; and Plato defined justice in the soul as the proper balance among its parts. Like Plato, Aristotle thought of the virtuous character along the lines of a healthy body. According to the prevailing medical theory of his day, health in the body consists of an appropriate balance between the opposing qualities of hot, cold, the dry, and the moist. The goal of the physician is to produce a proper balance among these elements, by specifying the appropriate training and diet regimen, which will of course be different for every person.
Similarly with health in the soul: exhibiting too much passion may lead to reckless acts of anger or violence which will be injurious to one’s mental well-being as well as to others; but not showing any passion is a denial of one’s human nature and results in the sickly qualities of morbidity, dullness, and antisocial behavior. The healthy path is the “middle path,” though remember it is not exactly the middle, given that people who are born with extremely passionate natures will have a different mean than those with sullen, dispassionate natures. Aristotle concludes that goodness of character is “a settled condition of the soul which wills or chooses the mean relatively to ourselves, this mean being determined by a rule or whatever we like to call that by which the wise man determines it.” (Nicomachean Ethics, 1006b36)
Conclusion
In conclusion, according to Aristotle, what is happiness?
  • Happiness is the ultimate end and purpose of human existence
  • Happiness is not pleasure, nor is it virtue. It is the exercise of virtue.
  • Happiness cannot be achieved until the end of one’s life. Hence it is a goal and not a temporary state.
  • Happiness is the perfection of human nature. Since man is a rational animal, human happiness depends on the exercise of his reason.
  • Happiness depends on acquiring a moral character, where one displays the virtues of courage, generosity, justice, friendship, and citizenship in one’s life. These virtues involve striking a balance or “mean” between an excess and a deficiency.
  • Happiness requires intellectual contemplation, for this is the ultimate realization of our rational capacities.

Friday, April 1, 2016

Aristotle:

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 Forms and Souls

Metaphysics

Aristotle considered the most fundamental features of reality in the twelve books of the Μεταφυσικη (Metaphysics). Although experience of what happens is a key to all demonstrative knowledge, Aristotle supposed that the abstract study of "being qua being" must delve more deeply, in order to understand why things happen the way they do. A quick review of past attempts at achieving this goal reveals that earlier philosophers had created more difficult questions than they had answered: the Milesians over-emphasized material causes; Anaxagoras over-emphasized mind; and Plato got bogged down in the theory of forms. Aristotle intended to do better.
Although any disciplined study is promising because there is an ultimate truth to be discovered, the abstractness of metaphysical reasoning requires that we think about the processes we are employing even as we use them in search of that truth. As always, Aristotle assumed that the structure of language and logic naturally mirrors the way things really are. Thus, the major points of each book are made by carefully analyzing our linguistic practices as a guide to the ultimate nature of what is.

Fundamental Truths

It is reasonable to begin, therefore, with the simplest rules of logic, which embody the most fundamental principles applying to absolutely everything that is:
The Law of Non-Contradiction in logic merely notes that no assertion is both true and false, but applied to reality this simple rule entails that nothing can both "be . . . " and "not be . . . " at the same time, although we will of course want to find room to allow for things to change. Thus, neither strict Protagorean relativism nor Parmenidean immutability offer a correct account of the nature of reality. (Metaphysics IV 3-6)
The Law of Excluded Middle in logic states the necessity that either an assertion or its negation must be true, and this entails that there is no profound indeterminacy in the realm of reality. Although our knowledge of an assertion may sometimes fall short of what we need in order to decide whether it is true or false, we can be sure that either it or its negation is true. (Metaphysics IV 7-8)
In order to achieve its required abstract necessity, all of metaphysics must be constructed from similar principles. Aristotle believed this to be the case because metaphysics is concerned with a genuinely unique subject matter. While natural science deals with moveable, separable things and mathematics focusses upon immoveable, inseparable things, metaphysics (especially in its highest, most abstract varieties) has as its objects only things that are both immoveable and separable. Thus, what we learn in metaphysics is nothing less than the immutable eternal nature, or essence, of individual things.

Universals

In the central books of the Metaphysics, Aristotle tried to develop an adequate analysis of subject-predicate judgments. Since logic and language rely heavily upon the copulative use of "is," careful study of these uses should reveal the genuine relationship that holds between substances and their features. Of course, Plato had already offered an extended account of this relationship, emphasizing the reality of the abstract forms rather than their material substratum.
But Aristotle argued that the theory of forms is seriously flawed: it is not supported by good arguments; it requires a form for each thing; and it is too mathematical. Worst of all, on Aristotle's view, the theory of forms cannot adequately explain the occurrence of change. By identifying the thing with its essence, the theory cannot account for the generation of new substances. (Metaphysics VII) A more reasonable position must differentiate between matter and form and allow for a dynamic relation between the two.
Aristotle therefore maintained that each individual substance is a hylomorphic composite involving both matter and form together. Ordinary predication, then, involves paronymously attributing an abstract universal of a concrete individual, and our experience of this green thing is more significant than our apprehension of the form of greenness. This account, with its emphasis on the particularity of individual substances, provided Aristotle with a firm foundation in practical experience.

Higher Truths

Aristotle also offered a detailed account of the dynamic process of change. A potentiality {Gk. δυναμις [dynamis]} is either the passive capacity of a substance to be changed or (in the case of animate beings) its active capacity to produce change in other substances in determinate ways. An actuality {Gk. ενεργεια [energeia]} is just the realization of one of these potentialities, which is most significant when it includes not merely the movement but also its purpose. Becoming, then, is the process in which the potentiality present in one individual substance is actualized through the agency of something else which is already actual. (Metaphysics IX) Thus, for Aristotle, change of any kind requires the actual existence of something which causes the change.
The higher truths of what Aristotle called "theology" arise from an application of these notions to the more purely speculative study of being qua being. Since every being is a composite whose form and matter have been brought together by some cause, and since there cannot be infinitely many such causes, he concluded that everything that happens is ultimately attributable to a single universal cause, itself eternal and immutable. (Metaphysics XII 6) This self-caused "first mover," from which all else derives, must be regarded as a mind, whose actual thinking is its whole nature. The goodness of the entire universe, Aristotle supposed, resides in its teleological unity as the will of a single intelligent being.

The Nature of Souls

According to Aristotle, every animate being is a living thing which can move itself only because it has a soul. Animals and plants, along with human beings, are more like each other than any of them are like any inanimate object, since each of them has a soul. Thus, his great treatise on psychology, On The Soul, offers interconnected explanations for the functions and operations of all living organisms.
All such beings, on Aristotle's view, have a nutritive soul which initiates and guides their most basic functions, the absorption of food, growth, and reproduction of its kind. All animals (and perhaps some plants) also have a sensitive soul by means of which they perceive features of their surroundings and move in response to the stimuli this provides. Human beings also possess (in addition to the rest) a rational soul that permits representation and thought. (On the Soul II 2)
Notice that each living thing has just one soul, the actions of which exhibit some degree of nutritive, sensitive, and/or rational functioning. This soul is the formal, efficient, and final cause of the existence of the organism; only its material cause resides purely in the body. Thus, all of the operations of the organism are to be explained in terms of the functions of its soul.

Human Knowledge

Sensation is the passive capacity for the soul to be changed through the contact of the associated body with external objects. In each variety of sensation, the normal operations of the appropriate organ of sense result in the soul's becoming potentially what the object is in actuality. Thus, without any necessary exchange of matter, the soul takes on the form of the object: when I feel the point of a pin, its shape makes an impression on my finger, conveying this form to my sensitive soul (resulting in information). (On the Soul II 5)
Thought is the more active process of engaging in the manipulation of forms without any contact with external objects at all. Thus, thinking is potentially independent of the objects of thought, from which it abstracts the form alone. Even the imagination, according to Aristotle, involves the operation of the common sense without stimulation by the sensory organs of the body. Hence, although all knowledge must begin with information acquired through the senses, its results are achieved by rational means. Transcending the sensory preoccupation with particulars, the soul employs the formal methods of logic to cognize the relationships among abstract forms. (On the Soul III 4)
Desire is the origin of movement toward some goal. Every animate being, to some degree, is capable of responding to its own internal states and those of its external environment in such a way as to alleviate the felt absence or lack of some pleasure or the felt presence of some pain. Even actions taken as a result of intellectual deliberation, Aristotle supposed, produce motion only through the collateral evocation of a concrete desire. (On the Soul III 10)